The enemy within




Lately, I've been reading The Presentation Secrets of Steve Jobs: How to Be Insanely Great in Front of Any Audience.

It's a great read, and it fell into my lap just as I agreed to lead a training on coaching skills for nonprofit managers. An example of perfect synchronicity.

As I go through each chapter, I distill the tips into my presentation.  The process has been relatively straightforward so far.

Until. Today, I came across Chapter 6, which focuses on engaging one's audience using the classic hero-villain storyline.

I have to find a villain? I thought frantically. In coaching? 

My mind went blank. Coaching is a practice of finding out what really motivates us, and applying it to proactively shape our ideal lives.  It's about moving toward the light, not fighting the darkness. 

Or is it?

Aha!  In moving toward the light, I realized, the enemy is the darkness. 

According to Eckhart Tolle, whose bestseller A New Earth reached millions via live webcasts with Oprah, most people alive today are in a state of darkness, which he calls unconsciousness.

In this state of unconsciousness, we act instinctively, and oftentimes from a place of fear.

In coaching, the client works to uncover her motivations.  These motivations, camouflaged but readily identifiable, can be divided into two categories.

We either act from the fear motivator, a place of pain avoidance, or from the passion motivator - a place of conscious alignment with our highest values and goals.

Through coaching, an individual sorts out the fear motivators from the passion motivators, gains clarity on the passion motivators, and shapes his life from a place of conscious choice.

As you may imagine, the results are quite extraordinary.

Becoming conscious is a process that each of us can begin today, whether we work with a coach or not. 

Moments of heightened emotion draw our attention to triggers  - triggers of fears and passions.  By sorting out the two, and choosing to align our lives with our passions, we can conquer the enemy within.

So go forth and conquer.  And, as a great hero once said, may the Schwartz be with you.
 

The truth about job satisfaction

January 14, 2010



A recent report by the Conference Board found that job satisfaction in the US has dropped to a record low of 45%.

More than 55% of Americans are unhappy in their jobs, with a whopping 64% of workers under age 25 reporting dissatisfaction.

We have many ideas and opinions about what's most important in a job. Top water-cooler theories include:
  • Money (the more the better)
  • A supportive boss
  • Nice coworkers
  • Flexible schedule
  • Good benefits (healthcare, anyone?)
  • Fit with the mission/values of the employer
  • Len...

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Celebrating our top achievements in 2009

December 31, 2009



At the end of the year, media outlets around the world are reflecting on the past calendar year.

We review lists of top movies, books, articles and inventions.

We remember the lives of those who have passed from this world.

And, in our personal lives, many of us are thinking about what we want to change going forward. We make New Year's resolutions.

New Year's resolutions are great because they are forward-thinking, proactive statements about how we want to live in the world.  But implicit in New...
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Up in the Air: George Clooney and getting laid off

December 24, 2009



Yesterday I saw a great movie - "Up in the Air" starring George Clooney.  In the movie, Clooney plays a man whose job is to fire employees who companies are too squeamish to handle the ugly task themselves.

As you can imagine, much of what Clooney says to the laid-off is carefully worded due to legal restrictions.  His words of consolence come across as trite and incomprehensible to his newly unemployed audience.

To paraphrase, Clooney's signature line is: because you've gone through this expe...
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How work impacts our happiness

December 16, 2009



I had the distinct privilege of attending Marcus Buckingham's workshop at last week's Massachusetts Conference for Women, titled "Find your Strongest Life."

Marcus' work has heavily influenced both my career path and my client work in recent years.

After learning his strengths-based career navigation system, I put in place his strategies to figure out what my ideal job would be.  I learned that I love working one-on-one to serve others.  I love empowering people to undergo personal and profess...
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Guerilla Networking at Holiday Parties

December 8, 2009



This time of year, our schedules are packed with business holiday parties. Many of us enjoy them, and many dread them. 

For some, holiday parties have become a necessary evil.  Not everyone enjoys interacting with coworkers on a social basis (I'm one of the lucky ones to have had outstanding coworkers), yet the pressure to make an appearance is strong.

How can we transform our experience of the corporate holiday party from dread to enjoyment?  With a little bit of planning.

First, think about y...
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New Year's Resolutions - why wait?

December 3, 2009



As the year winds down, many of us are feeling rushed. Holiday shopping and end-of-year deadlines are compounded by  endless celebrations and holiday parties.

With all of this chaos, it's hard to set aside time to reflect on the past year. 

Most of us have things we'd like to change about our lives. Maybe its a habit, like smoking, overeating, or overspending.  Maybe we'd like to create a healthier lifestyle, make time for a committed relationship, or re-imagine our career.

Committing to making...
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Ambition and family - when all your eggs are in one basket

November 25, 2009



Members of Generation X, those of us in our 30s to mid 40s, particularly those of us living in major metropolitan areas, are delaying marriage and children later than any generation before us. 

Why do we put off these milestones, known to prior generations as rites of passage into adulthood?

Many of us are focused on establishing ourselves as adults in our own right.  Gen X is known for its focus on individuality, expressing ourselves through technology and an ever-younger and more casual tast...
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Clutter busting - organize your desk and increase your calm

November 18, 2009



In the last post we explored internal clutter, the mental chatter that drags us down, and how to address it.

External clutter is an equally common and debilitating condition.  Most of us have cluttered desks or offices, at work or at home.

Here are some quick tips to scale back that mess.

1. Set aside a chunk of time, ranging from an hour to 3 or 4, depending upon the size of your clutter. Clear a large surface, whether on your desk or on the floor, where you can put all of the items that need t...
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Getting organized - quick tips to reduce chaos in your life

November 6, 2009



As discussed in the prior "monkey mind' post, we're bombarded by thousands of messages every day, most of them stemming from our own minds.  The result is a feeling of turmoil.

Clutter can increase our sense of chaos.  Some downfalls of clutter include:
1. When we look at clutter, we feel anxious.  This is because clutter is an outward manifestation of an internal state of turmoil.
2. If our homes or work spaces are filled with clutter, it is hard to find what we need/want.
3. Clutter is just one...
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Career Coach


Miriam J. Katz I aim to transform our collective perception of work. With a slight perspective shift, each of us can find and cultivate a deep sense of satisfaction in what we do. Together we can find authentic meaning in a space that has become known as the grind. Most of us spend more than 2000 hours at work each year. Let's utilize and value that time, rather than dreading it. Together we can put work on our payroll. Join me for the journey, and share your thoughts and questions!
 

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